Once you forgive, you must forget. It is not enough only to verbalize forgiveness to others. Holding a little grudge or ostracizing the person or family member is totally unacceptable in the Kingdom of Love. You are not allowed to hold it in your heart and memory. You love, you forgive, and you forget.
Look at the mercy that has been extended to you from The Father! Remember all of your past sins? It was thru our Father’s long-suffering and His extended mercy over and over that allowed you to finally see the light. We are to be like our Father in Heaven and be patient with the lost and the blind.